The Basic Necessity

Awareness

Do you ever feel like you don’t know what is going on around you?  Do you feel that someone may be watching you? Do you get a funny uncomfortable feeling inside at times? If you answered yes to any of these or all of these, your personal awareness needs to be improved.  Being aware of what is going on around you will help you in a very big way. It will help make you less of a target for violence and manipulation.  This is huge in self-defense because we won’t have to use verbal or physical skills if we are not picked as a target.

That funny feeling, that you sometimes get before something bad or uncomfortable happens is our body’s natural alert system trying to warn us about something.  Everyone has it. Some have learned to suppress it through social conditioning, while others have learned to listen to it. Listening to this feeling is also huge in self-defense, because it is an early warning sign that something is going to happen or is happening, and we need to get out now or put ourselves in a better position for defense.  

Communication: Verbal and Non-Verbal

Learning how to defend ourselves with communication skills is next in the sequence of the class.  Why non-verbal?  Because if we appear and act strong on the outside, through the way we walk, look and interact, then we won’t be picked as a target for bullying, violence or other bad things.  This is called being assertive, as opposed to passive or aggressive.  Passive behavior tends to draw in bad behavior like a magnet, as does aggressive behavior.  Aggressive behavior will tend to get the “I am better than you and going to prove it” attitude as well.  In nature, predators look for the weak and easy targets.  Passive looks weak and easy.  Nature also tends to challenge and prove themselves to aggressive behavior- the so-called “top dog syndrome”.  This is why assertive is best, it is neutral.  Assertive individuals are usually well-liked by most people, including passive and aggressive people.  Passive individuals attract aggressive people and aggressive people will repel passive, assertive and also aggressive individuals.  Our goal is to show you how to be assertive and help gain the confidence to maintain assertiveness throughout your life.

Physical Skills

To help you understand this principle of retention, do you have a specific memory of something from a long time ago or even just a couple of years ago? Why do you remember this event in particular? Was it exciting, scary, thrilling or fun?  More than likely the event that caused the memory elicited an adrenal response of some sort in the body. That response and its intensity are what helps cement the memory -or in some extreme cases- suppress the memory as in violent assaults. We will use this principle to help you retain and remember all the skills and lessons taught during the classes.  That way if you ever need the skills again, they will be there for your use.